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Anonymous asked: My Muslim girlfriend says that in order to be loved by me I must abandon my atheist ways and accept Islam. I tell her that I'll try it for a week. She tells me "No. Once you become Muslim you stay Muslim for Life" then she goes on about how the Kuron says she'd have to kill me if I went back to Atheism. What The Hell Do I Do? Is this "normal" Islamic behavior?
Wow, has to be one of the strangest situations I have heard of in a while. Generally speaking it is not necessarily “normal” Islamic behavior to threaten to kill someone, but the official punishment for apostasy (leaving the religion) in Islam is death. In that sense she is devoutly following the teachings of Islam. It is not uncommon even in this day and age for people to be killed for apostasy, it’s quite barbaric.
The rules for women are much stricter in Islam than they are for men. Officially men are allowed to marry outside of Islam as long as it is to a “chaste” Christian or Jewish woman. Women are forbidden to marry outside of Islam. Islam assumes men will take the “dominant” role in a marriage where a woman is more susceptible to “corruption”. Islamic women are not even to be seen in public with a man that they are not married or related to. Since it sounds as if she very traditional, in many traditional Muslim interpretations “dating” doesn’t really happen and a woman will only seek someone when looking for a spouse. Outside of marriage the two are often chaperoned to make sure nothing “inappropriate” happens.
As far as what to do I would avoid making any promises you are not ready for. If you are genuinely interested in Islam research it and seek to understand it better before making any kind of commitment. At that point you can make your own decision, but if your failure to convert is going to be a stumbling block for your girlfriend you two may be better off apart. No one can be forced to believe, you could only be forced to fain belief, if that is not for you I would suggest at least slowing things down until you have more knowledge on the subject in general.